When planning your wedding, what is something you wish you knew or learned earlier in the process?

So I asked this question to my previous couples and the overwhelming majority of responses had the same idea. Here is one of those answers...

"Don’t sweat the small stuff! It’s easy to get overwhelmed by the number of decisions. Pick what’s important to you, and give that your energy. I wish I had cared less about the trivial stuff!

I think what counts as “trivial” varies from bride to bride, but for me a lot of the smaller decorative touches I just didn’t care about. Like I did not care about the napkins, or what chairs were at the tables. My MIL is still mad that I didn’t have gift bags waiting for people as they checked into the hotel. Well, I didn’t care about that. The big things for me were my own dress/accessories, the photos, and the DJ. I also really loved anything that went in the mail - the save the dates, invites, and thank you cards. But only to a point. At one point I was stressed that my handwriting wasn’t good enough for addressing the save the dates and thankfully I had a friend remind me that no one gave a fuck. Ryan’s big priority was the food and alcohol selection. I wish someone had told me it was okay to care about what I cared about and not care about other things.

I think there’s an insane amount of pressure to have every detail be Pinterest perfect at every second of the day, and that’s just not a reasonable expectation. And it’s okay to not want to stress yourself out worrying about every decision.

Oh also! ALSO! At the end of the day, the only thing that matters is that you’re happy and you got married. As long as those things are true, nothing else really matters. If someone is unhappy, not your problem. Or as my mom says, not your circus, not your monkeys."